By: Inger Purifory
Co-Owner of Metaphysical Talk Radio
Host: Time to OM Hour and Triple Goddess Moon Hour
Definition (American Heritage Dictionary)
Attitude - A position of the body or manner of carrying oneself: stood in a graceful attitude.
A state of mind or a feeling; disposition: had a positive attitude about work.
An arrogant or hostile state of mind or disposition.
– A fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person’s responses to and interpretations of situations. An inclination or a habit.
A mental attitude or inclination
A fixed state of mind
A mind-set to make or to break
Attitude…the word is a powerful word and what I’ve learned is that it is definitely self-talk and it is a mind-set, which I believe will make or break me. This is why I created a subtitle, “Is it really mind over matter thinking?”. Mind over matter in how I choose to live each day and having the choice to survive life’s obstacles or allow it to overwhelm me. Personally, I choose to overcome it! What I’ve learned is that my mind-set and attitude is what builds my surroundings and how I view my circumstances is really how I believe how my outcome will be.
My mind-set is a choice
When I was a young child I had a negative attitude about myself, which was taught to me by some teachers, friends and sadly to say my parents, and siblings. I noticed it was affecting me as I became older; it was hurting my performance at work and at home. I learned that what I was doing back then was abusing myself mentally which is called self-talk, and it so happened that I did not realize I conditioned myself to think this way which in turn was slowly killing me inside and hurting my husband and children. Is one doomed for life once conditioned to live in this type of mind-set? One morning in 1996 while driving to work, I was switching stations until I stumbled upon a theologian Chuck Swindoll reading a poem which he wrote called, “Attitude” and this is what he says:
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company…a church…a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude…I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it”. And so it is with you…we are in charge of our Attitudes.” ~ Chuck Swindoll
Twenty-one years ago this poem changed my life. That last statement resonated within me, “…10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it”, forced me to see life differently. I began to believe in myself that I can achieve all things if I just changed my mind-set and attitude, and let my circumstances in life build me instead of defeat me because everything in life happens for a reason. So everything happens for a reason? Immediately one cannot help to ask, what about the pain? I can’t change my past but I can use it as a fuel to build my future. One of my favorite statements was from Star Trek V, where Captain Kirk lashes out to Bones, “Damn it, Bones, you’re a doctor and you know that hurt and pain can’t be taken away with a wave of a magic wand. There are things that makes us who we are. We lost that we loose ourselves! I don’t want my pain taken away, I need my pain!”
Does this mean I combine my pain with bitterness or use that pain for the good and persevere? You use it for the good and persevere! Why? Because if you don't it will start to literally eat inside you and it will turn into something else. There is a psychologist by the name of Carol Ryff who states, “…a positive attitude isn’t just a state of mind,” she says, “It also has linkages to what’s going on in the brain and in the body.” Article: Power of a super attitude by Sharon Jayson, Special for USA Today
Can we change someone’s mind-set?
NO! You can only change your own mind-set and be the light for others to follow your footsteps. Begin by changing your words and mind-set. If you constantly believe everything you touch in life turns to crap, well, like Pharaoh told Moses in the movie The Ten Commandments, “So Let It Be Written, So Let It Be Done”. Or, you can say to yourself, I am an awesome person and the decisions in my life are abundantly fruitful.
How about at work? Is there a person who speaks negatively? Example: They say to you, “You're just wasting your time…You don’t need a degree to achieve your goals now a days”. I can choose at that moment not to accept that statement, because, Attitude is a Mind-Set, which applied in My Life it is mind over matter and it is My Choice as to which Mind-Set I wish to choose for My Life.
Muhammed Yunus: Attitude Quotation
My greatest challenge has been to change the mind-set of people. Mind-sets play strange tricks on us. We see things the way our minds have instructed our eyes to see.
Has the scotoma been lifted from your eyes? I am proud to say mine has and I will continue to work hard at keeping them lifted.
(Copyrighted: February 2008, Inger Purifory)